I've Got Your Back, ft. Jenny Neal
I've known Jenny for years now. We first met through Zuda Yoga, an incredibly important space and community for me. Jenny is the studio manager, as well as just a general kick-ass human being.
What is a recent book
or article that you’ve read that has challenged your thinking, inspired you, or
changed you?
There’s a book by Tim Ferris called Tools of Titans, and
it’s like the Bible. It’s a bunch of billionaires and successful people talking
about their tricks and things they’ve done to succeed in life. I read some of
it every single night. I’m learning about routines, commitment, and focus. It’s
really teaching me how to succeed and learn through the mistakes the people in
Ferris’s book share.
I tend to take on a lot of projects and only complete about
twenty percent of them. So this book is helping me focus on what my passion is,
what I want to do with my life, and then executing those goals.
Who is an influencer
in your life?
Gabriel Bernstein is an influencer in my life. She is
somebody who doesn’t give a shit about what other people think of her. She just
lives this authentic, real, weird, goddess life. She teaches Kundalini yoga and
wrote the book, Miracles Now, and follows in the way of Marianne Williamson.
She lives authentically and makes Kundalini yoga cool. And
that’s something that I struggle with because Kundalini is kinda weird and not
necessarily something people want to do. So I’m learning from Gabriel Bernstein
how to get people interested and make it accessible.
What does feminism
mean to you?
Is it bad that I’ve never really thought about that? I
struggle with that word…and I’m not really sure why. I feel like it means being
authentic, living in integrity, and doing whatever you want to do without worrying
what other people will think of you.
Do you think the
struggle comes from the stigma that’s often attached to the word feminism?
I think I get this feeling that identifying as feminist
makes you this very specific woman who is anti-men, standing on the corner of a
street fighting for something. I
don’t feel that my job on this planet is to fight
for anything; I am a love warrior and so everything that I do comes from love. So
that word just isn’t in my vocabulary. What other word would you use in place
of feminism?
For me I think the
closest thing would be equality. That’s what I most closely associate it
with-equality for everyone. I wonder though, how we can make that shift from
fighting for something to being a love warrior…what does that look like to you?
There’s this quote that I live by from Yogi Bhajan and it says, “If you
cannot see God in all, you cannot see God at all.” If I look at you, I don’t
see a female, I don’t see a male, I just see your spirit. And however you
choose to express yourself, as long as you aren’t harming anyone, is right.
How do you then handle
situations when someone is harming
someone else-politically, environmentally, etc.?
Well let’s look at the Dakota Pipeline scenario. We had a
prayer circle and each person within the circle focused on someone specific. I
was focusing my prayers on the people who were causing harm. They need love
more than anybody else.
I’m not going to alienate someone who is causing harm. I’m
going to lead by example and show love to everyone. I’ll ask myself, “Why is
this person behaving this way or acting out this way?” And the answer is almost
always because they need love and attention. It’s either a cry for love or an
act for love, as my teacher Anne Marie says.
Feminism is such a
personal word and belief-I mean, that’s why the question is so open ended. “What
does feminism mean to you.” Because
even if maybe at the root of it it’s the idea of equality of the sexes, I’ve
gotten different answers from each woman I’ve interviewed. And each one is
different than my own interpretation. So these varied answers are helping me,
and hopefully those reading the interviews, grow and expand and update my
definition of feminism.
Yeah. So then I would just say it means living true to who
you are whether you’re female or male.
Do you have a
favorite quote or mantra that you try to live your life by?
There’s another quote from Yogi Bhajan that I would say I
love most, and that’s “Recognize that the other person is you.” That’s one that
I live by every single day. Everybody walking this earth is a mirror of who we
are.
What are you most
passionate about?
I’m most passionate about my women’s circles-gathering women
in tribe and playing sound bowls, sitting around crystals, burning those things
that no longer serve us and setting intentions. It’s this empowering, kind of
underground group. It was like birthed through me. I hope to use these circles
to give women a voice to share and be vulnerable. And then through it I hope to
gain community and connection. I guess there’s my feminism right there!
How are you an agent
for community and bringing women together?
I’m planning a retreat right now. It’s just one of those
things where you say yes and then figure it out along the way. I don’t want to
have an expectation. I want to let it decide where to go along the way.
Finish this sentence:
I am _______________.
I am a goddess warrior of love.
Jenny's got your back.
xxo